Monthly Archives: December 2013

You can’t juggle without letting go

Ever seen a juggler try to juggle while not letting go of anything???

We try to control way too much of our lives and our surroundings…too many unimportant things. We try to control ourselves, our expectations, and others. We have a tough time dealing with the unknown, the unexpected… worrying about all the “what if”s that might come up. We worry and stress over things that MIGHT happen as if they already have happened, and reflexively we attempt to CONTROL what we really can’t – because we’re afraid of something going wrong, even if we’re not sure what it is.

Even when we think we are in control, we really know that control is just an illusion…

We expose our bodies to a lifetime of stress unnecessarily… Health-wise we’re more likely to over-eat, not sleep well, develop heart disease, depression, chronic fatigue, on and on. We feel overwhelmed.

Trying to control too much is caused by an inability to discern what is and what is not truly important.

Want to live a happy life? Learn to let go. Don’t stress over possible outcomes of the future. Put trust in others…

More likely than not, the opportunity of YOUR lifetime is going to be a result of something not going exactly as YOU had planned.

Letting go does not mean not trying…it does not mean not doing your best. It means letting go of fear of what MIGHT happen. It means letting go of the expectation that everything will always go as planned because we know we’ll be able to deal with it. It means letting go of trying to do EVERYTHING yourself so that you can accomplish more than you have ever imagined when you enlist the help of others.

It means letting go of the future (what might happen), and of the past (what did happen), so that you can truly enjoy life (what is happening now).

Be Happy…Now! :D

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Almost everyone is waiting for something to happen… Waiting to reach some goal to be happy. Waiting to find the right person, save enough money for a house, pay down debt… Too often happiness is always around the corner… or, a more accurate metaphor, at the end of the rainbow.

Happiness is a simple conscious choice – and does not depend on your current situation or circumstances. As soon as you base your happiness on anything outside of your own self, it slips through your fingers and is gone. If you reminisce on happy events from the past, you’ve lost the happiness of the moment. You only feel the “missing” of the happy moments of the past that are gone. If you are waiting for some state of life (graduate, new job, pay down debt, waiting to “get” something or “have” someone in your life), then you are in a position of wanting something to happen…waiting for it to happen…putting your happiness on hold. You are again feeling things from a position of lack – living without happiness because it lies in the future. What’s more, the moment you had been waiting for, should it arrive, will at some point be gone. The happiness that was once coming in the future will be gone in the past…again leaving you empty. The answer is that happiness is already within you… here…now.

Happiness is an emotional feeling that comes from within yourself, and is not dependent on anyone else’s opinion of you, does not need anyone else’s approval, and does not depend on luck or current circumstances in any way… Happiness is an enjoyment of life – feeling in the moment… feeling connected, feeling alive… There are wonderful experiences and there are terrible experiences, and everything in between…but you are alive and there is an immense and wonderful appreciation that can be had for all things you experience in life… experiences that make you into the person you have become, that have given you the energy to be and do and create… to live and enjoy life.

A very simple metaphor that I like to use is to think of what makes a great movie great….There is no movie that I’ve ever seen where everything happens perfectly…goes exactly as planned…Where everything works out and nothing bad ever happens. Nobody on this planet would sit through the first 10 minutes. But cliffhangers… drama… action… excitement…love…loss…everything from tragedies to tearjerking romances…. THAT is what grabs us. THAT is what makes for an interesting experience that keeps us on the edge of our seats. Seeing the main character work through the lulls and depressed states, cope with inevitable losses, face challenges, overcome the odds….If that is what makes for a great movie, why would we want anything less for our lives?

Want Positive, Be Positive

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Jim Rohn said it best:

“You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with”

You need positive people in your life. People that believe anything is possible. People that support your dreams. People that are developed enough to not be afraid of your success, that help you think farther and help you stretch your own boundaries.

How do you find positive people? Be that person to others and they will find you.

Accept people as they are and be careful not to judge or criticize people that may show some negativity or not be as supportive as you would like. You attract positivity by exuding it, not by forcing it upon others. Remember, you choose with whom you spend your time. Just because you would like to spend time with one person or another, and you would like him/her to be supportive doesn’t mean it will ever happen. Not everyone has to have the same hopes, plans, and dreams as you do, and that’s ok.

When you start paying attention to the “positivity level” of others, positive people will stand out. Take an inventory of the people in your life right now – who falls into the positive, optimistic, can-do-anything personality category? What’s even better is a do-er rather than a dreamer…Most people will be hard-pressed to think of anyone…

As you exude and attract positive people, you can’t help but be changed. Others supporting you, showing you that something you thought was impossible is possible through their own actions… others supporting you when you attempt what some would claim is impossible, unrealistic, or unlikely… You need that when you’re facing those challenges. The accumulation of subtle shifts of mindset on a daily basis is critical to your success.

So as you finish up this week, and the rest of this year, look for positivity.. use the holidays to make new connections, and develop new personal relationships.

– Want positive, be positive.

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Monthly Archives: December 2013

You can’t juggle without letting go

Be Happy…Now! :D

Want Positive, Be Positive

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